Posted by : Shruti Bhat Kamath
On : 22 June 2015
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As parents in today’s world, we have begun to wonder if God has started sending upgraded operating systems in children which we were never trained to handle! How are we supposed to cope with these children? How do we understand their mind set and handle them with care and discipline simultaneously?
The answer lies in upgrading our OS to sync with theirs! Below are 10 hacks to get there quickly
1. Tune yourself to the pulse of the Generation A+
Gen X, Y and Z is gone.
Unless you get yourself updated with the latest technology, kids’ lingo, upcoming movies, latest actors, actresses, singers, musical bands and market you will not be able to even gain entry into your child’s world. Simple ways – Use Google! and have a smartphone!
2. Play smart
Once you enter his world, you will speak your child’s language and hence,
3. Self re-boot (Selfie time)
How do you re-boot your child’s OS without re-booting your own?
4. House rules
This does not necessarily mean spending money by going out but could just mean playing a board game together at home, cooking together, playing games, sharing stories, drawing, gardening or just talking to each other.
SMART TIP- If you have a teenage child, involving him/ her in setting the rules will help him/ her feel important and responsible.
5. Get more Talktime
Open, honest and frank discussions of house matters (finances, relationships etc) with your children gives them a good understanding of the family situation and on how to deal with it in future.
6. Yes, you can say ‘No’
When it is necessary to deny something that is harmful or unhealthy for your child, you have every right to do so as a parent. The consequence of denying it will depend a lot on how you say ‘No’.
7. Do not use the stick, but don’t hesitate to keep one in the hand
There are numerous creative and tactful ways of bringing up a child with discipline. Few among them are; explaining, being assertive and firm, being a friend, feigning anger and scolding when necessary and most importantly being a good role model yourself, but NOT hitting the child. The child may withdraw completely or may become over powering and obstinate in years to follow.
8. Reward and not bribe
Encourage your child for every small thing he or she does. Remember that the effort your child puts in is more important than the result. This reward is a positive re-enforcement and not a bribe.
At the same time, punishing him/her for doing wrong is also important. When choosing your punishment, just be cautious not shatter his/ her self-esteem. Rather, be creative and give a constructive punishment through which the child will learn something new as well.
9. Act by ignoring
Your child may seek your attention by doing the wrong things like throwing tantrums or crying. If you react to these, your child will use it as his/ her wild card everytime. In such cases, act by ignoring. Now, your child knows you are not a weakling. Welcome to smart parenting
10. Be Happy
You are the first role model for your child. You need to be very careful and conscious of whatever you say and do. Moreover, you need to be happy if you want your child to be happy.
Author's bio.: Dr. Shruti Kamath is a Consultant Homoeopath by formal education, an arts based therapist (specialised for special needs children), with a Diploma training in Psychology & Psychiatry, Indian classical dancer & singer by interest, explorer, constant learner, nature's lover by soul.